Underrated relationship habits are the secret to building a rock-solid bond. It’s not about grand gestures or elaborate date nights—it’s the small, often-overlooked actions that create the kind of love that withstands life’s curveballs. If you’re tired of the same old advice, this post is for you.
Let’s dive into ten underrated relationship habits that will have you and your partner saying, “How did we get this good?”
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10 Underrated Relationship Habits That Create Unbreakable Bonds
1. Laugh A Lot
Inside jokes, ridiculous nicknames, and laughing at that one embarrassing story for the hundredth time—these moments are the glue that keeps relationships light and joyful. Humor doesn’t just break tension; it reminds you why you’re together in the first place.
Example: I once burned a grilled cheese so badly that the fire alarm went off, and the pan was left with a permanent outline mark of the grilled cheese—an unintentional tattoo of my culinary disaster. Now, every time I offer to make grilled cheese or we pull out that pan, it’s like a running joke and a little reminder of that epic fail.
2. Compliment Each Other
When was the last time you told your partner they looked amazing—or that you appreciate how they always fold the laundry just right? Compliments don’t have to be profound; they just need to be genuine and sometimes corny.
Tip: Surprise them with a “You’re amazing” text in the middle of their workday. Trust me, it’ll make their day—and yours too.
3. Master the Art of Silent Support
Sometimes, your partner doesn’t need advice or solutions. They just need you to sit next to them, share a tub of ice cream, and let them vent about their annoying coworker.
In our house, we have a “2-minute rule.” After work, we each get two minutes to vent—though sometimes it stretches to five—then we move on. It’s our way of keeping work stress from taking over our evening.
Tip: If they ask, “Am I overreacting?” the answer is always, “Not at all. Let me grab the spoons.”
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4. Make the Mundane Moments Magical
Who says brushing your teeth together or grocery shopping can’t be fun? Adding a little spontaneity to your routines—like dancing in the kitchen while dinner cooks—makes everyday life feel special.
Example: In our house, making the beds is a race against time—and our cat. As soon as she hears us, she’s on top of the bed, ready to turn it into a game and make the task ten times harder. The challenge? Do it as quietly (and quickly) as possible before she catches on!
5. The Unexpected “I Got You” Gesture
Fill up their gas tank, make them coffee before they wake up, or buy that snack you know they love but never ask for. These small actions scream, “I care,” without saying a word. Small gestures of love.
Real Life: If I know my husband’s day is going to be longer at work, I like to lay out his clothes for him by the shower. That way, when he gets home, he can just shower and relax without having to think about anything else.
6. Normalize Saying “I’m Sorry” Without Excuses
A heartfelt “I’m sorry” is one of the most underrated relationship tools. Skip the excuses; just own up, mean it, and move on.
Story Time: My partner once apologized with, “I’m sorry I ate the last cookie. I panicked—it looked too good to leave.” How could I stay mad at that honesty?
7. Schedule a Weekly “What’s Up” Chat
Forget the serious sit-downs. A casual, “Hey, how’s life treating you?” over coffee or a walk can do wonders. Life just gets busy sometimes, so this is the time to share updates, frustrations, and dreams—no judgment, just connection.
Example: My husband and I can talk for hours about anything—good shows, the news, stocks, business, life in general, cooking ideas… you name it. Even when the cat’s being a bonehead, the conversation never seems to end.
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8. Keep Surprises in Your Back Pocket
Surprises don’t have to be expensive or extravagant. It’s the thought behind them that counts. Hide a note in their jacket, plan a movie night with their favorite snacks, or pick up flowers “just because.”
Tip: The best surprises happen for no reason at all.
9. Practice the “Pause and Hug”
Whenever you sense tension brewing, pause the conversation and just hug. It’s hard to stay mad when you’re physically reminded of how much you love each other.
Real Talk: Just the other week, we were in mid-argument about what’s considered a “clean” sink. Hugging broke the tension, and we ended up laughing at how ridiculous we were being.
10. Dream Together, Even About the Little Things
It’s not just about discussing long-term goals; dream about small things, too. Plan your next lazy Sunday, a new recipe to try, or even a road trip you both want to do.
Example: We liked to dream about having lots of money and becoming lenders one day while we were building apartments. We’d laugh about how easy our lender had it—just cashing our cheques every month and buying a new truck every year. At the time, we wondered if it would ever happen… but those conversations always bring you closer together.
Building an unbreakable bond isn’t about monumental efforts; it’s about showing up for each other in everyday actions and small gestures of love. By practicing these underrated habits, you’ll create a relationship filled with joy, trust, and genuine connection. Just Remember: It’s the little things that make love feel big.
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